Monday, April 1, 2019

A Step by Step Guide on How to Let God Fix Your Broken Heart

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A step by Step Guide on How to Let God Fix Your Broken Heart

A Step by Step Guide on How to Let God Fix Your Broken Heart

The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit. Psalm 34:18

I think we can all say that we have had a broken heart at some point in our lives. We can all think back to a time when we were curled up into a ball on our bed or couch weeping and we could feel our hearts shattering into pieces. You may be facing that right now.

When I was 13-14 years old, I started dating my first long-term boyfriend. We dated for 2 years before we called it quits. The first year and a half was an ideal relationship. He was kind, loving, gentle, always there for me, and I was the same in return. He always surprised me with gifts and always wanted to talk to me throughout the day. In the last 6 months of our relationship I found out that he had cheated on me, was writing other girls flirtatious notes, and he had gotten into doing drugs. 

I was so heartbroken because the boy I thought I knew was no longer the
The Lord is near to the brokenhearted an saves the crushed in spirit. Psalm 34:18
same person. He had let others influence him on how they thought you should treat women, they thought cheating and having multiple girlfriends was cool, and they had influenced him to start doing drugs. Because of my heartbreak I decided to cheat on him too, but it just made things worse.

We made the mutual decision to end the relationship and go our separate ways. Taking things into my own hands and trying to deal with the heartbreak eventually only hurt both of us. I should have given my broken heart to God and let God deal with it. But, at first I didn't and it just got worse. I now had to live with regret instead of just a broken heart.

I’m here to tell you that it does get better. I know it doesn’t feel like it, it may not seem like it will happen any time soon. God wants to heal your broken heart. Here is how we let God fix our broken heart:

STEP ONE: Share our brokenness with God.

God wants us to have conversations with him. He wants us to tell him what is breaking our heart. We should confide in him, he will answer our prayers and have a conversation with us.

Then you will call, and the Lord will answer; you will cry for help, and he will say: Here am I. Isaiah 58:9 

STEP TWO: Realize that we aren’t so broken that God can’t heal us.

We’re not broken goods, God can always heal us. Nothing is too big or too small for God. God will heal our brokenness. We may feel so broken that it’s impossible for any kind of healing. But, we need to just know that nothing is impossible for God and he wants our broken heart.

He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. Psalm 147:3

STEP THREE: Lay down whatever broke our heart at God’s feet.

We should ask God to heal and mend our broken heart. Give our heart and the situation that broke our heart to God. Let God heal our heart. God is our strength!

My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever. Psalm 73:26

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STEP FOUR: Wait on God/ be still.

We shouldn't focus on our brokenness. We shouldn't focus on the situation that broke our heart. We shouldn't go through the "what if's" or "could haves", we should just let God heal us. While he is healing us we only need to be still.
The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still. Exodus 14:14
The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still. Exodus 14:14   

STEP FIVE: Let God take full control.

Once we have laid it at God’s feet we need to let him take full control. We can’t try to take back our broken heart and start mourning again. We need to let God heal it and keep it. 

Three times I pleaded with the Lord to take it away from me. 2 Corinthians 12:8

STEP SIX: We can’t look back on the situation that made our heart break.

Looking back will only break our heart again and means that we are trying to take over the situation again after we already gave it to God.

But Lot's wife looked back, and she became a pillar of salt. Genesis 19:26

STEP SEVEN: Forgive the situation or person that broke our heart.

Forgiveness is a big step in the healing. We're not healing the person or situation for them, it's so that we can heal and move on.                       

For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. Matthew 6:14

STEP EIGHT: Move on from our broken heart.

There is no need in soaking in the brokenness. We can move on without more pain, more scars or more brokenness.

He pursues them and moves on unscathed, by a path his feet have not traveled before. Isaiah 41:3

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STEP NINE: Rejoice in his healing.

We should then rejoice that God healed us and we can now be used for God’s good to help others going through the same brokenness.

Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Philippians 4:4

STEP TEN: Let God use our broken heart and testimony of healing to help others.

Our broken heart can now be used to help others in the same situation. We can be there for each other and help each other make it through hard times. 

for it is God who works in you to will and to act in order to fulfill his good purpose. Philippians 2:13                    

In closing:

Nowhere in the Bible does it say that we need to be strong. God will be our strength. The church is there for us to help be our strength.

We need to put our hope in God and praise him. He is our help and our redeemer. He is always there for us when no one else is or when it seems like no one else is.

Why, my soul, are you downcast? Why so disturbed within me? Put your hope in God, for I will yet praise him, my Savior and my God. (Psalm 42:5)

God can heal, he can deliver, and he can mend broken hearts. He's waiting for you.
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  1. Very good tips on healing. Each of those steps are very detailed steps to a full recovery.

  2. I took a long time to heal from a bad breakup and even now, ten years married to a different guy, still have to remember to forgive when old memories come up. Thank you for these beautiful verses about who God is and what He can do as well as the practical ways to begin the healing process.

    1. Thank you Brittany. Sometimes healing takes a while. <3