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Mourning the Loss of a Loved One
Finding out that you had cancer was one of the hardest things for me. I wanted to be so angry, upset, depressed, and emotional. My selfishness wanted to kick in and ask why! Why grandpa? Why someone so perfect? Why someone so devoted to God, someone so loving, my grandpa? But through my selfishness, I had to remember that there is a greater purpose. We don't know if God is planning a miraculous healing for an unbeliever to witness so they can finally believe there really is a God. We don’t know if God has your amazing mansion ready for you in heaven. Anyway that God has it planned he has a purpose. We all need to remember that just because someone has an illness it doesn't mean that it's necessarily their last days on earth, only God determines that. Anyone could pass away at any moment, illness or not. When God is readyfor us, there is no stopping it. Every day we need to love each other and live life as if it was our last day on earth because time isn't promised to anyone. When it is your time, it won't be a goodbye forever, if we are saved then we will see you again and we will spend eternity with you and God. We, of course, will miss you and we will mourn over the loss of you but we do know that we will see you again. In my selfishness, I have prayed that God will heal you. In my selfishness, I prayed that God would just wait until the rapture to take you along with the rest of us, and for that rapture to happen soon. But what I remember is that everything happens in God's timing. I remember that God has a good and perfect plan. I remember that I can't be selfish and I pray for God's will to be done.
This is part of a letter that I wrote to my grandpa when I found out that he had cancer. He passed away five short months later. Four months after that I lost one of my grandmas. A year and 8 months later I lost my other grandpa. It has been a really tough two years.
When someone you love dies your world changes. You never get over the death of a loved one. Time doesn't heal all things. But, you can let God give you peace and comfort.
Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted. -Matthew 5:4 NIV
It's ok to let yourself grieve. Its ok to cry. It's ok not to be ok. It's ok to be broken. There is no right or wrong way to mourn or grieve. Everyone heals differently. Some people heal faster than others and that's ok.
We are all broken, that's how the light gets in. -Ernest Hemingway
Give yourself time to grieve, but also allow yourself to heal. Give your broken pieces to God so he can comfort you, give you peace and strength.
Take care of yourself. Allow yourself to enjoy life. Allow yourself to be happy. Allow yourself to laugh and feel joy.
a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance,
-Ecclesiastes 3:4 NIV
-Ecclesiastes 3:4 NIV
Losing someone can be overwhelming. Take it one day at a time. Surround yourself with supportive family and friends that you can talk to. Seek counseling if it becomes too much to handle. Have your church, family and friends pray for you. People around you will understand that you're going through a tough time. It's important to Have support during these times. Don't suffer alone.
“Grief is like the ocean it comes in waves, ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm, and sometimes it is overwhelming. All we can do is learn to swim.” -Vicki Harrison
Now may the Lord of peace himself give you peace at all times and in every way. The Lord be with all of you.
2 Thessalonians 3:16 NIV
Our ultimate comfort comes from the Father, through the Holy Spirit who Christ called the comforter and will come to bring us comfort and peace. He doesn't want our hearts to be troubled. (John 14:26-27)
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